Baby Registry – Second Time Around?
My DH and I are having another child. We have a 6 year old. While we kept a lot of our baby gear, there is some stuff that is just worn out and we had to throw away. We need stuff like bottles, bouncer, baby monitor, etc. Is it poor etiquette to register for a second baby or is it totally acceptable?
I think it’s fine to have a second baby shower. I did and so have lots of other people I know. You always need clothes and things and most people understand that now days.
CONGRATULATIONS!
I have heard that a shower for any child after #1 is ‘not allowed’. (I have only heard that since moving south). I say phooey! You may have a different gender. I think it is fine to register if you are trying to replace worn out things. The whole purpose of having a baby shower is to help the parents with the expense of the gear. It doesn’t get cheaper with more than one!
Good Luck!
I personally wouldn’t buy anybody anything for a second shower. It screams greed to me despite what some women say on the boards. Buy your own stuff. If you want a party, have a welcome baby party after the baby arrives. They can bring gifts if they want to. All that said, your close relatives may indeed buy you stuff. I have no issues with you listing a registry.
Yes, the baby needs things, but unless you are having sextuplets, you’ve already had your shower!
Every baby should be celebrated. If people don’t want to attend a second, or third shower, then they don’t have to. It’s not mandatory. As for a registry list, it’s ok I think. I know when I am invited to any type of shower, I want to get the person what they need and/or want. Not something they have no use for.
i have had 8 kids in the last 8 years and I registered all of them. you wouldn’t believe how much free sh1t i got.
In general, it isn’t done. But a nice way to do it tastefully is to have a baby “sprinkle”. Don’t register for large items, just small necessities. Or have a diaper party, this way you can use all the money you save on diapers to buy the things you need.
I think its just fine! 6 years ago…who knows some of the stuff might have even been recalled. And things can only store and be kept in good shape for so long. You might also be having a different gender….and personally I wouldn’t want to put my little boy in a pink stroller lol. Go for it momma!! Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, congrats on the baby and I wish you a safe and healthy delivery!!
I like your thinking, (you sound like me! LOL) but I had actually never even thought about that. We (meaning friends and co-workers) always have a shower for everyone we know that’s having a baby, first, third, whatever. I don’t have children yet but I would hope someone would give us a shower, no matter what number the baby is! You could just register for these little things that you need.
I am from an old fashioned family, and 20 or 30 years ago I think today’s methods of registering would have been considered poor etiquette period. It’s like you just send everyone your shopping list!! BUT today it is the norm and totally acceptable.
Congratulations and good luck!
I think registering for the second time around is fine. I have been told by one friend that it was inappropriate, but he has been the only one with a negative comment on it. The thing is he is single, and has no children. So I don’t think he understands that:
1. Things do wear out, and sometimes if a particular product was not good quality it can wear out rather quickly.
2. You may not have children born within the same season. For instance my first was a summer baby and now I am having a winter baby. I don’t have hats, coats, a car seat boot cover, a humidifier, etc.
3. You may have a different gender
4. You may have not gotten some things the first time around or you know now what you should have registered for
Ultimately, I am registering for my second child. I am probably only going to tell my family about it since they are the ones that will be giving any gifts. My mom has already told me that she doesn’t know what I need and that she would like to know. She also lives far away so it will be easier for her to shop online through the registry which is a plus. As far as letting anybody outside the family know, I will say something if they ask. Although, I still feel kinda guilty since talking to my one friend who disagrees with it. I guess I just have to learn not to care about what other people think, but it’s tough sometimes to have that mentality (esp for me).
Good luck