Who hosts/plans the baby shower?
I’m about 19 weeks pregnant and already my friends and relatives are hounding me about when my shower(s) will be. I was always under the impression that the mother-to-be doesn’t have much to do with it- someone else throws her the shower. But no one has offered to host a shower for me. I don’t even have work or church groups to do it.
My first inclination was to just not have one anyway, but I realize that we have a lot of baby gear to get, and it would be nice to have some help. Also, I’ve hosted or attended about 10 showers just in the last few years and given gifts, so I feel like now it’s my turn to be on the receiving end.
Should I just start hinting around that I’d like someone to throw me a shower? Or should I just plan it myself?
My mom is mostly planning mine since I currently live in Nevada and it is going to be in Tennessee, where I grew up.
Give hints to people, u shouldnt have to go through all that planning, they can do something for u.
i would plan it if i where you! congratulations!
I think the god-mother, your sister or mother or best friend should plan it.
what about your mother?
my mother is throwing mine.
well maybe they all have one planned for you as a surprise, my friends did that to me they kept asking me when it was. I kind of figured my mom and aunt were throwing me one I just didn’t know when, its usually a surprise so just wait it will come
Usually a friend or family member throws it. It’s typically considered “tacky” to host your own baby shower.
If I were you, I would talk to your mom, sister, or close friend and discuss this with them. Tell them it would really help you out if you had a baby shower and since no one has offered, ask if they would be willing to host one for you.
Typically it is a friend or relative that throws the shower. It’s not considered proper etiquette to throw one for yourself. You can be part of the planning though. Next time someone asks just casually say you haven’t had anyone offer to throw you one yet, so you don’t know when it will be. Hopefully someone will get the hint and offer then.
Usually it’s a best friend or your mother or mother in law that host a shower. Just start talking to them about all the things you need and how it sure would be nice to have a shower so you don’t have to buy them all yourself. If that doesn’t work , ask them to help you plan one, then maybe they’ll get the hint and take over the planning for you.
You don’t host your own shower. Usually a friend does it. I’m “anti showers” as I think they’re just a means to ask/beg for gifts.
While it is tacky to plan one yourself, in the end the choice is yours. If you are embarrassed that you are throwing the party yourself, you could get a voice mail box to send RSVP’s to and omit return addresses from the invitations.
I am not positive but I think it’s supposed to be a female friend/relative who’s close with the mommy to be. Hopefully someone throws you one sounds like you could use one. Congratulations on the new baby!
That’s weird. Your friends and family are supposed to organize it. I’m smh at THEM asking YOU when the shower is going to be!
I gave my best friend a shower over the weekend. And yes you should not have to hold your own. Tell your best friend or closest relative. They should be more than happy to hold one for you.
Somebody might be planning your shower already (surprise). I would still hint around if I were you though. When I was pregnant with my first, I would say things like, oh, I want this as a shower gift or hey, I need to register, who wants to go with me?
I wish we had such a thing – I’m in the UK and we don’t
boy I’d love all that help buying baby stuff!!
if u want 2 plan it urself then go ahead plan it
have sum fun
but if u want sumones help
get ur mom orone of ur bff’s 2 plan it and be the hostess. get someone who u can trust and who u luv 2 help plan it
get ur mother-in-law 2 plan it even. whatever works
and makes u wanna have another
no, the mother-to-be really shouldnt have to host her own shower. your mom and your significant other’s mom should be the ones to do it for you. maybe you can talk to your s/o and see if he would be willing to talk to them about throwing you one so you dont have to.
Usually your mother, other family member or friends should plan it. If you do it, it’s like begging for gifts. When they ask you about it just tell them anytime they want to have one would be fine and you will go along with it.
That should be a good enough hint.
I never had a baby shower for either one of mine.
Traditionally your mother in law or the child’s father’s mother would cover this area for you. If you don’t have that person in your life I would start hinting to friends and your mom that you would like the shower. We had two for my new nephew-one thrown my her friends and one by both moms. If you throw the shower yourself the presents will come-it helps to have a gift registry.
Don’t plan it yourself, that would be a little tacky, but hint for someone, like a sister, mom, friend that you would be interested in a shower, and maybe they’ll get the hint, tradition is that anyone close to the mother-to-be would throw the shower for her not the mother-to-be herself, I did it for my sister, I wish you were my sister, I’d throw you the best shower ever, I love throwing baby showers.. it’s so cool.. good luck and congratulations..
Maybe someone is throwing you a shower, but they are keeping it a surprise..
Normally someone just steps up to do the honors. In my case too many people stepped up, then I had to decide who would throw it. Mom won out. You can drop a hint and see if anyone volunteers. Keep in mind that baby showers do cost money to throw so that may be preventing someone from volunteering. In my case, my shower cost about $3500 which my mom paid for most. I bought some gifts for it to give out. We could have purchased anything I needed with the money we spent, but it was priceless fun in the end. I just wanted to make it special for my friends and family that cared enough to come. You can also plan it yourself but its probably going to be an expense (party decorations, supplies, gifts, games, hall rental, catering or food.) If it comes to that you might be better off just splurging to buy what you need instead of throwing a party.
Usually parents help or sisters. My mother and mother-in-law both helped… and it turned out great even my husbad was there and his buddies best way to do… A good game for adults that everyone enjoyed was putting beer in a bottle and see who drinks it the fastest good luck on your new arrival
If you want to bother with a shower, plan it yourself. I cannot believe those people hinting for you to put on a show for them aren’t putting themselves out to do this for you.
My mother and my mother in law are throwing mine. I dont think the mother to be should plan her own (personal opinion of course) unless you want to. I would just come out and say to your friends and family who keep hounding you: “well i dont know when it will be. Why dont you throw me one and you tell me when it is!”
It has always been the mother and mother-in-law and few select people like sisters or sister-in-laws and maybe very close girl cousins.
The mom-to-be doesn’t do anything and it’s her friends or family who host it. The host is also the one who usually foots most of the bill. So if they keep hounding you about it, just say something like “Gee, I’d love to have a baby shower, but it’s poor etiquette to throw myself a shower.” Maybe they will take the hint.
So if your friends want to get together to hold a shower for you, they can all share the costs and the fun of planning it! It is typically held about 6 weeks before the baby is born but there is nothing wrong with waiting until after it is born either.
I had two of them! My mother and then my step-mother. Give hints out.